Long Distance Relationship (LDR)

[13]  The real secret to making a LDR (Long Distance Relationship) work is by learning to lose some battles and being OK with that. Let me🙋 honest to you, without some compromises you cannot stand in a Long Distance Relationship (LDR).

After having an experience of Long Distance Relationship, I’ve come to the conclusion that although it is possible🤓, there are a few adjustments and realizations you need to make in order for it to work. Staying in LDR is not possible but believe me with some adjustments & compromises you can do it.

First of all, you both can’t go into a LDR starting out in the negative😫, so make sure there are no current outstanding issues.

Another key component and probably the biggest of all is you have to have trust (obviously). Do I need to explain this factor🤔? Noooooo....!

You have to not bicker on the small things. Why bring all those issues? Which aren't related with tomorrow. Just let them go😙.

Don’t sweat the small stuff. She didn’t text you back right away🙇, that’s ok. You trust her, right? So who cares. Now if it’s a consistent issue, that’s different.

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Never ever have serious conversations over text or chat. Resolve this on the phone📱 or face to face (virtual or reality). This shows you are mature, thoughtful and are willing to have a conversation, you are better than those guys who are blocked👾 by their own pride & ego.

Another caveat about doing a LDR is that the personalities between you and her need to be similar. Similar personalities lead towards the mutual understanding👫, another factor for strong LDR. In other words, if one of you is really shy😄 and the other is an extrovert👯, that will likely fail because your lifestyles are different.

Also you can make LDR strong by following few things. Have a routine of doing Whatsapp📲 or Facebook or Skype. Talk/text☎ every morning and every night at least.

Your old dates now become Chat. Start learning to write thoughtful chats📝. A handwritten card weights 10x more than any jewelry piece you could ever get her in a LDR.

 Set your expectations lower😳. Don’t be glued to your phone, put it away once in a while so you don’t force a habit of waiting to hear back from her. Don’t keep score or be even-steven with everything. You may text her more📱, but maybe her schedule isn’t the same as yours😬. Let. It. Go.
Even if you are right, don’t beat a dead horse. Forgive her and move on😘😘. She will resent you after if you push her buttons. Learn to lose arguments, sometimes the battle just isn’t worth it👍.
If you can visit and it’s economically feasible💸, you should visit her.

If I can stay in a LDR for such a long time why can't you😉???