Break-up or you just got dumped by someone. You just want to curl up and retreat from the world. It doesn’t matter if it was a LDR (Long Distance Relationship), a short-lived facebook or snapchat affair, an unrequited love or a live in relationship with benefits. If you cared and connected, you feel deep painful feelings instead of that laughter and affection. It’s like experiencing a small death.
Grieving over your lost love for a short time is understandable, but if you stick with this you will only get hurt, your friends will eventually get tired of hearing you talk about your ex and advise you to “Get over it.”
Getting over it.
Huh!
“Easy to say. Much harder to do.”
Every morning you start your day with that intention, trying to move on. But every night ends with you wanting to call them, check out their Facebook page or look through old photos, just to feel closer to them.
“Forget her Yaar! She will not come.”
Break-ups and addiction of doing all these things in night can lead to psychological reactions that cause obsessive preoccupation with your partner, feelings of frenzied desperation, guilt over what you could have done differently and even physical pain. Letting go for good seems unimaginable.
So what one can do?
4 a.m. in the morning I’m writing this stuff, Why? May be because I’ve the answers to explain these type of situations.
First thing what most of us do after breakup is using Alcohol and lots of cigarettes. I suggest try using meditation, don’t medicate. Avoid overusing drugs, alcohol, cigarettes and coffee and resist the urge to stuff down your feelings using chocolate and food. You’ll only end up feeling worse about yourself. In times of stress, eating these things will only cause you to spiral down into a depression, lose sleep and gain weight. I usually, take five minutes to sit quietly, doing meditation, practicing yoga or deep breathing.
After breakup your body stop producing pleasurable hormones called endorphins, absence of endorphins make you feel sluggish and miserable. Exercise increases your endorphins. Join a health club or gym (I Joined Chrome Gym), take the stairs instead of the elevator, walk to work, do some yoga or how about dance (Why Dance? Cause ABCD
{Any Body Can Dance} you too can dance).
Stay active for 30 minutes a day for 30 days, without any excuses.
It’s about 30% Gym and 70% Diet. Your body can’t function properly without the proper nutrition. Don’t skip meals. Treat yourself as if you were your own child — eat wholesome meals that are balanced and freshly made, avoid packaged food.
Get plenty of sleep. There’s nothing more replenishing to your body than quality sleep. If you are having trouble going to sleep because of punishing, pain-producing thoughts, try this my favorite thing: Keep a diary by your bed, write down your anxieties and imagine them flowing out of you and onto the paper.
Don’t ignore or kill your feelings. Instead of killing them try to feel your feelings. Let the tears flow and express your anger. Ignored emotions will only make you calloused and afraid. Start talking with your broken heart, ask questions what he want now and how can you heel him?
Surround yourself with smiles and happy vibes, avoid negative or unhappy people. Make time for some feel good activities — anything from having a cup of tea with a friend to ‘visit to a Hauz Khas Fort’.
Stop obsessing accept the reality. Whenever negative thought occurred in your mind just say, “Stop!” If they still persist, then continue and say again, “Stop right now!”
Saying “STOP!” interrupts the obsessive thought process and breaks the cycle of pain. Immediately, redirect your thoughts away to something good that is happening in your life.
Take a 60-second vacation. From smelling a perfume to Playing a video game on your android phone do anything which can give you happiness. This 60-second vacation can relax your mind and help you lessens anxiety.
Show gratitude to time. Maybe he decided something good for you. Gratitude can transform pain into love and bring peace to your emotional chaos.
Be religious, try reading holy books and visit nearby religious places.
Last but not the least, be Happy cause happiest people are ones who give the most to others. Learn the Art of Forgive.
When you’re feeling down after a breakup, you may feel like you want to avoid the very activities that will actually make you feel better — exercise, visiting friends, being kind to those in need. As much as you might want to, avoid isolating yourself from others. Ask for help and talk to a friend who you know is a good listener. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Don’t think of this as time wasted because you aren’t with that special person, but as precious time you need to reinvest in a healthier, more grounded and more spiritually enlightened you.
In the last, “Best Of Luck to all of you!”
Waiting for your comments.
Yogesh Sharma is the Author of the books For someone special and Rompimento.
Follow The Author on twitter
go4yo@twitter.com
Grieving over your lost love for a short time is understandable, but if you stick with this you will only get hurt, your friends will eventually get tired of hearing you talk about your ex and advise you to “Get over it.”
Getting over it.
Huh!
“Easy to say. Much harder to do.”
Every morning you start your day with that intention, trying to move on. But every night ends with you wanting to call them, check out their Facebook page or look through old photos, just to feel closer to them.
“Forget her Yaar! She will not come.”
Break-ups and addiction of doing all these things in night can lead to psychological reactions that cause obsessive preoccupation with your partner, feelings of frenzied desperation, guilt over what you could have done differently and even physical pain. Letting go for good seems unimaginable.
So what one can do?
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| Selfwork |
4 a.m. in the morning I’m writing this stuff, Why? May be because I’ve the answers to explain these type of situations.
First thing what most of us do after breakup is using Alcohol and lots of cigarettes. I suggest try using meditation, don’t medicate. Avoid overusing drugs, alcohol, cigarettes and coffee and resist the urge to stuff down your feelings using chocolate and food. You’ll only end up feeling worse about yourself. In times of stress, eating these things will only cause you to spiral down into a depression, lose sleep and gain weight. I usually, take five minutes to sit quietly, doing meditation, practicing yoga or deep breathing.
After breakup your body stop producing pleasurable hormones called endorphins, absence of endorphins make you feel sluggish and miserable. Exercise increases your endorphins. Join a health club or gym (I Joined Chrome Gym), take the stairs instead of the elevator, walk to work, do some yoga or how about dance (Why Dance? Cause ABCD
{Any Body Can Dance} you too can dance).
Stay active for 30 minutes a day for 30 days, without any excuses.
It’s about 30% Gym and 70% Diet. Your body can’t function properly without the proper nutrition. Don’t skip meals. Treat yourself as if you were your own child — eat wholesome meals that are balanced and freshly made, avoid packaged food.
Get plenty of sleep. There’s nothing more replenishing to your body than quality sleep. If you are having trouble going to sleep because of punishing, pain-producing thoughts, try this my favorite thing: Keep a diary by your bed, write down your anxieties and imagine them flowing out of you and onto the paper.
Don’t ignore or kill your feelings. Instead of killing them try to feel your feelings. Let the tears flow and express your anger. Ignored emotions will only make you calloused and afraid. Start talking with your broken heart, ask questions what he want now and how can you heel him?
Surround yourself with smiles and happy vibes, avoid negative or unhappy people. Make time for some feel good activities — anything from having a cup of tea with a friend to ‘visit to a Hauz Khas Fort’.
Stop obsessing accept the reality. Whenever negative thought occurred in your mind just say, “Stop!” If they still persist, then continue and say again, “Stop right now!”
Saying “STOP!” interrupts the obsessive thought process and breaks the cycle of pain. Immediately, redirect your thoughts away to something good that is happening in your life.
 |
| Selfwork |
Take a 60-second vacation. From smelling a perfume to Playing a video game on your android phone do anything which can give you happiness. This 60-second vacation can relax your mind and help you lessens anxiety.
Show gratitude to time. Maybe he decided something good for you. Gratitude can transform pain into love and bring peace to your emotional chaos.
Be religious, try reading holy books and visit nearby religious places.
Last but not the least, be Happy cause happiest people are ones who give the most to others. Learn the Art of Forgive.
When you’re feeling down after a breakup, you may feel like you want to avoid the very activities that will actually make you feel better — exercise, visiting friends, being kind to those in need. As much as you might want to, avoid isolating yourself from others. Ask for help and talk to a friend who you know is a good listener. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Don’t think of this as time wasted because you aren’t with that special person, but as precious time you need to reinvest in a healthier, more grounded and more spiritually enlightened you.
In the last, “Best Of Luck to all of you!”
Waiting for your comments.
Yogesh Sharma is the Author of the books For someone special and Rompimento.
Follow The Author on twitter
go4yo@twitter.com
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