तुमसे दूरी

"तुमसे दूरी"

तुम क्यों बदल गए?
तुम्हारी क्या मजबूरी थी?
तुम तो मेरे दिल में थे,
फिर क्यों हम तुम में इतनी दूरी थी,
तुमको समझा नूर ऐ खुदा हमने,
तुम मृग नैनी कस्तूरी सी,
दूर रह कर जाना तुमसे,
ये दूरी भी बहुत जरूरी थी.. 
                 
                  ~ योगेश शर्मा 'योगी'

My Visit to World Book Fair 2018

January 13,2018: It is a lazy, winter Sunday afternoon. Book lovers, inquisitive young minds and languid strollers could all be seen walking about stalls of World Book Fair 2018 at Pragati Maidan.

Also, It was a big day for me. I was invited to Authors Corner at World Book Fair. After writing two Books “For Someone Special and Rompimeto” this was a very big opportunity for me.

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Program Started at 11:00 a.m. in the morning, my turn was second last. As Authors were coming and delivering their speech, I started feeling nervous. They all were unique with their ideas and thoughts. My palm gets sweated, my heart beat raised. My mind filled with fear.  After waiting for long then one hour my turn comes.


“Good Afternoon everyone!“

I believe that if writers don’t get to a place where they’re “swimming” in their thoughts about their subject then they will not succeed. Or at least the book won’t be the best it could be. It may not be a “place” as scattered in approach as one of my six-hour writing theory, but writers need to get lost in their process and in their subject.

Books are my first love. I’ve been devouring books since the age of 8 or 9 (I can’t recall the exact age). I was coward suffering from meekness in my childhood, I was most uncomfortable around people. So, I chose reading and made Books as my best friend.

(My throat was about to choke, In the middle of the speech I felt nervous very badly, this is my first speech ever. I held my nerves and took deep breath and continue…)

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I do not want to take your precious time so let me complete quickly, “One must read books to overcome from loneliness and negativity.  More we nourish our mind with reading books more we will get positive and amazing results.”

Thank You!

Hall was resounding with Applauds. I look toward my nephew Saksham, he was smiling. His smile realized me I’ve done it perfectly.

Feel Relaxed.

After the completion of the program we both visited the Book Fair.

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In evening I have some other plans. So, I have to go for now.

But Today’s Diary is incomplete.

To be continued…

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Yogesh Sharma is the Author of the books For someone special and Rompimento.

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Overcome from Loneliness

Break-up or you just got dumped by someone. You just want to curl up and retreat from the world.  It doesn’t matter if it was a LDR (Long Distance Relationship), a short-lived facebook or snapchat affair, an unrequited love or a live in relationship with benefits. If you cared and connected, you feel deep painful feelings instead of that laughter and affection. It’s like experiencing a small death.


Grieving over your lost love for a short time is understandable, but if you stick with this you will only get hurt, your friends will eventually get tired of hearing you talk about your ex and advise you to “Get over it.”


Getting over it.


Huh!


“Easy to say. Much harder to do.”


Every morning you start your day with that intention, trying to move on. But every night ends with you wanting to call them, check out their Facebook page or look through old photos, just to feel closer to them.



“Forget her Yaar! She will not come.”



Break-ups and addiction of doing all these things in night can lead to psychological reactions that cause obsessive preoccupation with your partner, feelings of frenzied desperation, guilt over what you could have done differently and even physical pain. Letting go for good seems unimaginable.


So what one can do?

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4 a.m. in the morning I’m writing this stuff, Why? May be because I’ve the answers to explain these type of situations.

First thing what most of us do after breakup is using Alcohol and lots of cigarettes. I suggest try using meditation, don’t medicate. Avoid overusing drugs, alcohol, cigarettes and coffee and resist the urge to stuff down your feelings using chocolate and food. You’ll only end up feeling worse about yourself. In times of stress, eating these things will only cause you to spiral down into a depression, lose sleep and gain weight. I usually, take five minutes to sit quietly, doing meditation, practicing yoga or deep breathing.


After breakup your body stop producing pleasurable hormones called endorphins, absence of endorphins make you feel sluggish and miserable. Exercise increases your endorphins. Join a health club or gym (I Joined Chrome Gym), take the stairs instead of the elevator, walk to work, do some yoga or how about dance (Why Dance? Cause ABCD
{Any Body Can Dance} you too can dance).

Stay active for 30 minutes a day for 30 days, without any excuses.


It’s about 30% Gym and 70% Diet. Your body can’t function properly without the proper nutrition. Don’t skip meals. Treat yourself as if you were your own child — eat wholesome meals that are balanced and freshly made, avoid packaged food.


Get plenty of sleep. There’s nothing more replenishing to your body than quality sleep. If you are having trouble going to sleep because of punishing, pain-producing thoughts, try this my favorite thing: Keep a diary by your bed, write down your anxieties and imagine them flowing out of you and onto the paper.


Don’t ignore or kill your feelings. Instead of killing them try to feel your feelings. Let the tears flow and express your anger. Ignored emotions will only make you calloused and afraid. Start talking with your broken heart, ask questions what he want now and how can you heel him?


Surround yourself with smiles and happy vibes, avoid negative or unhappy people. Make time for some feel good activities — anything from having a cup of tea with a friend to ‘visit to a Hauz Khas Fort’.


Stop obsessing accept the reality. Whenever negative thought occurred in your mind just say, “Stop!” If they still persist, then continue and say again, “Stop right now!”
Saying “STOP!” interrupts the obsessive thought process and breaks the cycle of pain. Immediately, redirect your thoughts away to something good that is happening in your life.

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Take a 60-second vacation. From smelling a perfume to Playing a video game on your android phone do anything which can give you happiness. This 60-second vacation can relax your mind and help you lessens anxiety.



Show gratitude to time. Maybe he decided something good for you. Gratitude can transform pain into love and bring peace to your emotional chaos.


Be religious, try reading holy books and visit nearby religious places.



Last but not the least, be Happy cause happiest people are ones who give the most to others. Learn the Art of Forgive.


When you’re feeling down after a breakup, you may feel like you want to avoid the very activities that will actually make you feel better — exercise, visiting friends, being kind to those in need. As much as you might want to, avoid isolating yourself from others. Ask for help and talk to a friend who you know is a good listener. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Don’t think of this as time wasted because you aren’t with that special person, but as precious time you need to reinvest in a healthier, more grounded and more spiritually enlightened you.


In the last, “Best Of Luck to all of you!”


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Yogesh Sharma is the Author of the books For someone special and Rompimento.

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Thinking of New Project

Its almost five days have been past, since I completed my training. Next thing in my mind is, What next? And immediately my mind replied to me, My Dream Project. A novel in Hindi Language. So, how do I start? Though I already written two books but as you all know still I need to grow up as a writer. As a writer choosing what to write next is the most important decision. I do not want to choose anything poor to write, I mean I do not want a piece of shit on my writing table and realize no one is interested in reading what I've written. Worse, I might have to abandon it in the middle, realizing I should never have started it in the first place.

What can I write? For whom I can write? What I want to achieve from this? What story will help me become a better writer? What does my audience want to read? Will this piece of writing give immense pleasure to me? These are the few questions which always run in my mind.

I always tried to note down the ideas which strikes in my mind. Whether these ideas are silly stupid ones or unimaginable I write down all of them on paper.


Currently, I have a story in my mind regarding a Hunter and a Tiger. A story related with Tiger and Hunter. How they hunt? How they survive? How they fight? How they both live in their families? And how they feel when they lost their near and dear ones. And how about revenge in the climax?


I have too many ideas running in my mind. Let's see how things comes up for me. Wish me Best Of Luck for the project.


Thanks!

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My Last Day in Office

From the past one year, I've been spending the majority of my days with a group of people unknown to me. If I recall my first day, I just remember how nervous I was on that day. It is bit difficult to accept a new job after having been at my previous job for two years. Leaving one job and starting a new job is not that easy, it’s all scary, filled with nervousness. But right away these new people made me feel at home. My nervousness turned to excitement, and these strangers turned into friends.

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Yesterday was my last day, and I was little excited for embarking on this new chapter in my life, I was sad to be leaving some of the people I have spent so much time with over the last one year. From them I've learned that we all influence the lives of others, especially those we see on a daily basis. Without some of these people, I don't think I would be where I am today.

Planning and management two basics and most important things I’ve learnt from my Organization and also how to implement these planning on correct time.

Yesterday in evening they planned a surprised party for me. I was surprised to see almost each and every staff member was there for saying me last ‘Goodbye’. They all were happy for me and also they wished me good luck for the future too.

With some sweet and emotional moments, I take off from the office, also few near and dear ones threw a dinner party for me. Miss you all! Hope one day we will meet again till then See Ya all.

Goodbye!

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Viral Fever on NYE - Happy New Year

A glass of orange juice and a mood for writing blog, what else one can want on New Year Eve.


I've never really been one to get hyped up about NYE (New Year Eve), maybe because when we were growing up our parents never made a huge deal about it. A piece of Indian sweet dish Barfi at 00:01hrs is enough for me and family to celebrate NYE. Later on, when I was young it was an excuse to party. I attend two or three in my teenage life but I hate these kind of parties filled with Alcohol and Sluts.

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I have spent a few NYE's at home feeling unwell thanks to stupid viral fever in this season (Thank God I have something viral to share with you apart from those videos and messages). This is third time in a row I fell sick on NYE. Any day you are sick is unfortunate. You can take it as a given that every day of your life you would prefer health to sickness. It is natural for everyone to prefer to be healthy than to be sick. In that way you could see any day that you’re sick as bad luck especially if that day is NYE.


If one believes in Superstition, does it mean that you’re likely to be sick all year, or have some other misfortunes all year? Don’t Know. I do not think much these day.


I don’t make resolutions too. You need a brave heart and strong inner will for completing even those small-small resolutions.


I get surprised when I see people bursting fire crackers, driving fast, drinking and dancing, getting cosy with their partners on NYE. I mean why so much excitement? Is this a kind of festival? Why we celebrate festivals? Any moral story behind this? Why NYE is so important for us? Any guess? Any idea? Think why we get so much excited on this day?


This year too I will spend my NYE alone at home watching movies and drinking café (I stay away from Alcohol in sickness). No partner, No friends, No one. I have a few invites but I will prefer to stay at home.


Happy New Year to All Of You.

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My Balcony

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The view you are looking in Image is from my balcony (3rd floor) at home. One of my favorite place, It is about twenty to twenty five feet in the air, which means you look out from about twenty to twenty five feet in the air. Our apartment is snugly fit against the other buildings.

I like to be out here, can stay pretty much all day. Breathe some fresh air, while having a cup of tea. On weekends, I get a chair, sit and read. Soaking up the sun is little difficult here as sunlight didn’t reached here. But still I love my balcony. I also have few plants and a bird feeder in my balcony. Parrots, pigeons and squirrels always play here.

I often come here in the night to watch starry sky. To break the silence, to hide my emotions, to hide my tears.

I hate when balconies are often underused or unimaginatively used. It’s common to see aesthetically naive residents stashing away all kind of items in their balconies. Most of my neighbors relegates this precious space to a mere store or worse still, an in house junk yard.

In my point of view, a balcony should be properly planned and creatively decorated, if you can able to do this it can be your favorite relaxation space within the home.

Love Your Balcony Always…

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